Does the good really make up for the bad?
Your life isn't going so well. You're not having a great run. Things aren't great at work. Your foot hurts, etc. You then naturally want to make up for it, make yourself feel good. So you plan on doing something that feels good: perhaps getting drunk; eating too much of something; doing drugs; binge watching a show, and so on.
What do you like to do when you feel bad?
The point is does the trying to feel good make up for the feeling bad. For example, you had a boring week + getting drunk = even; you're bored + binge watching = even; you're sad + eating junk = even. There are endless examples but the formula remains the same: something bad happens + something that's good = evening it out.
Everything that I'm saying isn't to get you to try and stop this pattern but to become aware of it. Aware that it keeps repeating, is out of your control and constantly changing. You don't need to try and fix it or yourself because that's just more of the same pattern, trying to change bad to good. We didn't invent this pattern. It's human thought and was around before you got here, long before.
The key aspect is that sometimes life isn't good but then it changes. Life doesn't remain frozen and discontinues changing. It's in constant motion. Becoming truly aware of this is the real definition of peace. For example, say something bad happens. Let it move on versus trying to rectify that something bad with something else that usually causes your body, your mind, or even worse, someone else’s body or mind, some sort of pain. The realization that everything that happens also passes is true wisdom. It's very simple but difficult to realize because just letting something be bad without trying to change it is very difficult for us indeed!
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